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This book helped to enlighten me on my situation with my ex husband It literally helped save my life. My mother married and thankfully later divorced this kind of man my father Also, I have a friend my age who exclusively falls for these men and has had a lot of unecessary problems because she won t learn from her mistakes Infatuation isimportant to her than true happiness through a mature and strong bondAfter reading the first few pages I also recknognized two men who tried to win me over but I refused their advances I always read people very well and thanks to my mother s mista My mother married and thankfully later divorced this kind of man my father Also, I have a friend my age who exclusively falls for these men and has had a lot of unecessary problems because she won t learn from her mistakes Infatuation isimportant to her than true happiness through a mature and strong bondAfter reading the first few pages I also recknognized two men who tried to win me over but I refused their advances I always read people very well and thanks to my mother s mistake I learned a lot.I want to read this book to see my opinion stated by a pro and maybe find a way to help my friend If the book is as good as Forward s Toxic Parents Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life then I ll recommend her this book or even give her a copy as a present It s creepy and fascinating to see my progenitor basically in all of the stories.Forward talks in one case about falling from grace It s the moment when the perfect and idealized woman shows any kind of flaw or mistake whether true or imagined is irrelevant and the man will feel betrayed by the woman How dare she change How dare she not be the woman he fell in love with She was supposed to be the one Well, after my parent s divorce several awful things happened One of which I remembered while reading the book I was maybe 11 years old and alone It didn t matter how I uttered my anger, fear, frustration, and other negative feelings Nobody cared I was desperate and so I did the only thing I could I typed my feelings into a word document I remember it was on a very old re re re re used computer and I vented everything It was my only outlet The only way to express the toxicity destroying me I think I printed the page a few times and put them in a shelf.One day, my mother and I came back from grocery shopping and my father was in the apartment He shouldn t have been there but since my mother had given him the key, he just invited himself in He then proceeded to humiliate and insult me That he had read my letter it wasof a diary, so and was disappointed and how I dare do this to him It was not the first or last time he called me a bad evil child He was the victim and I had destroyed him by expressing my anger which I had suffered from their abuse After talking down to me for I don t know how long, he left He had left me a letter, written on the computer, and printed out I still have it He said the same things as before How I had given him hope in this evil and dark world and how I had betrayed him and how dare I He told me that I was just as bad and full of shit as the rest of the world.I had fallen from grace after expressing years and years of pain.Thankfully, I knew how full of shit he was and just got angry and frustrated Now, years later, the best thing that could have happened is me having fallen from that stupid grace because I never had to try to be the good daughter In the end, being abandoned can be a blessing because if he had stayed I m sure my family would have dealt with evenof his psychotic antics.There are basically two types of misogynists when it comes to money issues the good provider , who is financially stable, and the tragic hero , who sees himself as an innocent victim of other people s chicanery and who has an extensive history of unemployment and financial chaos he often has to be supported by his partner But whether the misogynist is earning most of the money, or both of you are contributing equally, or you are supporting him, he will take charge of how the money is spend My progenitor is the tragic hero every boss, every employee, heck, every person on this goddman planet is against him He works sooo hard but everybody is sooo mean to him Poor unfortunate soul Yes, think of Ursula I remember how my mother had to work as well, because he was, as the quote says, unstable and financially irresponsible and even if he had a job, he worked poorly He referred to the money my mother earned as shit and unworthy But he still wanted to have every fucking dime He spent money on alcohol, cigarattes, gambling, his affairs, and knowing him probably also on prostitutes My mother had to buy food like a ninja, all in secrecy Buying milk or a little bit of meat for my brother and me could very well end in berating and beatings if we weren t careful.This seems even to me, who has lived it, absolutely unreal.To this day I don t trust anybody who says they re absolute victims of the world and nobody ever loves them and woe them So far, I have always been right avoiding these specimen Is this the way love is supposed to feel Does the man you love assume the right to control how you live and behave Have you given up important activities or people to keep him happy Is he extremely jealous and possessive Does he switch from charm to anger without warning Does he belittle your opinions, your feelings, or your accomplishments Does he withdraw love, money, approval, or sex to punish you Does he blame you for everything that goes wrong in the relationship Do you find yourself walking on eggs and apologizing all the time If the questions here reveal a familiar pattern, you may be in love with a misogynist a man who loves you, yet causes you tremendous pain because he acts as if he hates youIn this superb self help guide, Dr Susan Forward draws on case histories and the voices of men and women trapped in these negative relationships to help you understand your man s destructive pattern and the part you play in itShe shows how to break the pattern, heal the hurt, regain your self respect, and either rebuild your relationship or find the courage to love a truly loving man Helped me get out of a very abusive situation andregain my life and self back Not just for women. I was in a very toxic relationship with a misogynist for years It was nearly identical to how Dr Forward describes in this book I really appreciated how much time she spent explaining and discussing how the misogynist works so that in the future I can do my best to avoid them The only real issue I have with this book is that I wish she would explain if someone is abusive to you, theythan likely won t change Nothing you do or say will convince them to change, unless they choose so, and I was in a very toxic relationship with a misogynist for years It was nearly identical to how Dr Forward describes in this book I really appreciated how much time she spent explaining and discussing how the misogynist works so that in the future I can do my best to avoid them The only real issue I have with this book is that I wish she would explain if someone is abusive to you, theythan likely won t change Nothing you do or say will convince them to change, unless they choose so, and even then you have to be very cautious I appreciate many of her sentiments, but the second half of the book is somewhat useless because I really don t believe someone who truly hates women as badly as this book describes can be rehabbed Otherwise, it was a very interesting book that confirmed, my abusive relationship wasn t my fault and whatever toxic pattern happened, will be repeated by him again This psychological book is not meant as a novel Yet i read it with an eye opening interest about why women can stay with wife beaters, control freaks, manipulating creeps and husbands who slowy sufficate the women who love them so much It pushed me into the direction of wanting to help people and start counceling, which brought me to where i am today. Shed welcome light on a painful problem with a friend I would highly recommend it for anyone who found themselves in a friendship or relationship with someone with emotionally abusive tendencies Checked out a number of books on the topic and this, along with one other also on my list were the two best Marked five stars mostly for the profoundly validating and clarifying effects it had on me. Gave this book to two friends who went through what I had with my ex husband It helped both them and myself come to terms with a bad relationship This book changed my life for the better. believe or not when i say i read this book because i liked somebody who i knew for 3 years and made me cry my eyes out when he left me, a broken heart can happen to any one, of any age, of any life style, Dr Susan tell us how in a relation ship that start like sweet corn candy can end up like ugly poise apple, and u can be the worse victim on it you feel helpless, depress, and you can real relate your self to any thing because life is empty and nothing feels right, u try to look up but down is believe or not when i say i read this book because i liked somebody who i knew for 3 years and made me cry my eyes out when he left me, a broken heart can happen to any one, of any age, of any life style, Dr Susan tell us how in a relation ship that start like sweet corn candy can end up like ugly poise apple, and u can be the worse victim on it you feel helpless, depress, and you can real relate your self to any thing because life is empty and nothing feels right, u try to look up but down is the only path u see, the cloud are blue but dark oceans islike to u, and how u just feel like the only person that really better to u had gone, and now u just have to learn how to live life with out them, even if u see them every day with someone else that u probably know too, makes no sense to want to fight for them because like they say don t make someone your priority, if u are just a option to them Dr Susan help to live a normal life after a storm and i truly recommended this book for the broken heart I d forgotten all about reading this book until I saw it again on goodreads.I remember the story associated with being given itthan I remember any details of the book, but I do recall being impressed with it A woman who was the mother of a little girl frequently at my house at the time gave this book to her husband for his one and only Christmas present the month before He handed it to me with a somewhat shell shocked look on his face, and told me the basic fact Even though the girl w I d forgotten all about reading this book until I saw it again on goodreads.I remember the story associated with being given itthan I remember any details of the book, but I do recall being impressed with it A woman who was the mother of a little girl frequently at my house at the time gave this book to her husband for his one and only Christmas present the month before He handed it to me with a somewhat shell shocked look on his face, and told me the basic fact Even though the girl was at my house a lot, her dad was the one I would see most often, he went to Little League games, etc I remember being surprised because he seemed like a great dad, a decent guy I do remember I thought a lot about the contents of this book as I was reading it, and for long after I remember it gave me a new perspective on some issues that most couples go through at one time or another