[[ Read ePUB ]] How to Hug a Porcupine: Dealing With Toxic & Difficult to Love PersonalitiesAuthor John Lewis Lund – Collateralloan.co

Dealing With Toxic Difficult to Love Personalities


10 thoughts on “How to Hug a Porcupine: Dealing With Toxic & Difficult to Love Personalities

  1. Jenna Jenna says:

    I m afraid to admit that I read this book for help in dealing with another person and shamefully recognized myself within its pages Oh my I love the practical advice in this book, how to receive criticism, and how to give criticism, as well as tactics for dealing with critical, toxic people in one s life This book gave me my 2010 personal maxim Be my Highest and Best Self I give others the right to be whatever version of themselves they want to be I just decide on me.


  2. Amy Anderson Amy Anderson says:

    While I had come to realize a lot of the suggestions in this book, it was good to see it in writing I grew up in a toxic home with toxic people and learning to treat people the way they should be treated and recognized how I should be treated as a person has been a long journey My natural instinct often gets in the way This book helps to clarify distinct boundaries and suggests ways to become my best self Awesome read Anyone wanting to be a better person should read this book And evenWhile I had come to realize a lot of the suggestions in this book, it was good to see it in writing I grew up in a toxic home with toxic people and learning to treat people the way they should be treated and recognized how I should be treated as a person has been a long journey My natural instinct often gets in the way This book helps to clarify distinct boundaries and suggests ways to become my best self Awesome read Anyone wanting to be a better person should read this book And eventhey should read it if they have to deal with hard people in their lives Quote I liked Positive reactions require time to think and ponder Negative responses primarily emotional reactions require no thought The goal is to keep yourself in control of you p.92


  3. Rosemary Rosemary says:

    Since I love reading these kinds of books, I was intrigued from the title alone I had also heard the author lecture and knew he was excellent When I brought this book home, it caused a stir as several family members came to me secretly suspecting they were the one who made me buy it I only smiled without saying who and reminded them that some extended family members could also be suspect This book is very insightful and helps shine a light on an often unspoken problem That of living w Since I love reading these kinds of books, I was intrigued from the title alone I had also heard the author lecture and knew he was excellent When I brought this book home, it caused a stir as several family members came to me secretly suspecting they were the one who made me buy it I only smiled without saying who and reminded them that some extended family members could also be suspect This book is very insightful and helps shine a light on an often unspoken problem That of living with people that drain you with an onslaught of negativity His case stories and examples are clear and he addresses the unspoken question of when to call it quits with porcupines and what you can do if you stay Since he is a Mormon author and Dr it is good to know he understands the eternal perspective on marriage and family His empathy, advise, and understanding is valuable My favorite line of his is this Some of you will either marry your biggest trial or give birth to it And some of you most unfortunate ones will do both


  4. D D says:

    The book was fabulous I started reading it in hopes of knowing how to deal with the personalities of some specific people people who are defined as toxic The advice and coping skills are great The part I didn t anticipate was the painful reality of my own toxic interactions Luckily, there s a difference between having toxic interactions and being a toxic person I have some improvements to make I was already sold on Dr Lund s approach after listening to his CD For All Eternity http The book was fabulous I started reading it in hopes of knowing how to deal with the personalities of some specific people people who are defined as toxic The advice and coping skills are great The part I didn t anticipate was the painful reality of my own toxic interactions Luckily, there s a difference between having toxic interactions and being a toxic person I have some improvements to make I was already sold on Dr Lund s approach after listening to his CD For All Eternity I honestly think this book will help me be aware of how I interact with everyone around me One of the great things, is being able to be around toxic people I love without allowing my self worth to be injured by them


  5. John John says:

    This book was one series of amazing revelations after another about how toxic personalities in my life those constantly negative people who drain all patience and happiness out of me don t have to be given that power This book teaches proper ways of dealing with people who refuse to be satisfied and how to keep from pinning your own happiness and self worth on their skewed view of the world A life saver


  6. Hope Hope says:

    This has helped me in so many different ways I have learned about toxic traits I have and learned how to deal with toxic traits I see in my family members and people I have to deal with frequently It is a very interesting but sometimes difficult book to read I ve learned alot about myself, which can be humbling.


  7. Talia Talia says:

    If you have anyone that you have a hard time dealing with just can t stand this book will help Itteaches you how to train YOURSELF to handle colorful people instead of trying to change them LOVED IT It is a MUST read in this lifetime


  8. Jenny Jenny says:

    This book just got better and better as I read it, I especially liked the end So many good ideas and tips, not just for dealing with porcupines , but in trying to become your best self.


  9. Donna Donna says:

    5 stars It was amazing means this is a really good book dealing with a very personal and unpleasant subject Toxic relationships I don t know how may people have to deal with toxic people in their lives but I would recommend this book to one and all who do It helps with boundary setting, understanding what you can and can not control, and gives practical guidelines that help in interacting with an emotionally difficult relationship I like the reassurance that I am not crazy, it is not all m 5 stars It was amazing means this is a really good book dealing with a very personal and unpleasant subject Toxic relationships I don t know how may people have to deal with toxic people in their lives but I would recommend this book to one and all who do It helps with boundary setting, understanding what you can and can not control, and gives practical guidelines that help in interacting with an emotionally difficult relationship I like the reassurance that I am not crazy, it is not all my fault, it is not all up to me to fix, the stuff going on in the relationship is not just my imagination, and there are things within my power I can do to lessen the insanity Perhaps some would say, if a relationship is toxic just leave it Unfortunately, a toxic person will continue to provoke and try to insert themselves in your life You may leave, you may want to leave but the toxic person will never leave you Hence, you need guidance and help to navigate through dangerous waters


  10. Leo Leo says:

    This book is basically an instruction manual on how to deal with people who are toxic, how to take criticism and how to give criticism The bottom line is that you should put forward your best self regardless of what other people dish out to you We are all tempted to take an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth when confronted with someone s toxic behavior, but there is a better way, a healthier way to respond WE can t change someone s toxicity, but we CAN change how we react to it and that This book is basically an instruction manual on how to deal with people who are toxic, how to take criticism and how to give criticism The bottom line is that you should put forward your best self regardless of what other people dish out to you We are all tempted to take an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth when confronted with someone s toxic behavior, but there is a better way, a healthier way to respond WE can t change someone s toxicity, but we CAN change how we react to it and that can have a positive effect Sometimes it won t, but we don t have to take the fact that it didn t personally Some of the structure and mechanics of the writing bothered me I can t help noticing that stuff , but the message is worth it especially if you take the information to heart and put it into practice