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This book came highly recommended by seemingly the entire internet, and the concept was one I m VERY familiar with I d watched a couple of Brene Brown s TED talks and I was impressed with the topic of her research and with how long and how thoroughly she s been researching Oh yeah, and I also remembered that I am the most sewn up and invulnerable control freak that I know It s been something I m aware of, and I wasn t always this way But I know it s keeping me from joy and love in a lot of a This book came highly recommended by seemingly the entire internet, and the concept was one I m VERY familiar with I d watched a couple of Brene Brown s TED talks and I was impressed with the topic of her research and with how long and how thoroughly she s been researching Oh yeah, and I also remembered that I am the most sewn up and invulnerable control freak that I know It s been something I m aware of, and I wasn t always this way But I know it s keeping me from joy and love in a lot of areas in my life, so I m working on it.This book doesn t fix everything, but boy is it good at calling you out and naming things The very act of naming bad emotional habits, harmful tactics with people, etcit takes away their power somewhat At least that s how I felt Ms Brown s book takes a hard look at what vulnerability is, why we re so afraid of it, what keeps us from allowing it shame and how it affects men and women differently She backs up her conclusions with research data, numbers, anecdotes and helpful insights into her own life I really enjoyed her humor and candor She takes a look at vulnerability as a professional, as a partner, a friend, and as a parent All are really valuable view points.The bottom line is, we re hard wired to be connected to others We can t experience joy or peace without these connections However, we can t have these connections without allowing ourselves to be vulnerable I really can t recommend this book enough to anyone, any gender, and in any life situation It s valuable and the topics she brings up need to be addressed The premise of this book rocked, and I was very interested in learningabout how to bevulnerable and dare to dothings However, the book was written completely in generalities I need to hear the details of your research, the way you helped clients overcome their problems with vulnerability, facts, and stories I need concrete advice and concrete science Couldn t finish this fluffy ass book. For me, and for many of us, our first waking thought of the day is I didn t get enough sleep The next one is I don t have enough time Whether true or not, that thought of not enough occurs to us automatically before we even think to question or examine it We spend most of the hours and the days of our lives hearing, explaining, complaining, or worrying about what we don t have enough of Before we even sit up in bed, before our feet touch the floor, we re already inadequate, already be For me, and for many of us, our first waking thought of the day is I didn t get enough sleep The next one is I don t have enough time Whether true or not, that thought of not enough occurs to us automatically before we even think to question or examine it We spend most of the hours and the days of our lives hearing, explaining, complaining, or worrying about what we don t have enough of Before we even sit up in bed, before our feet touch the floor, we re already inadequate, already behind, already losing, already lacking something And by the time we go to bed at night, our minds are racing with a litany of what we didn t get, or didn t get done, that day We go to sleep burdened by those thoughts and wake up to that reverie of lack This internal condition of scarcity, this mind set of scarcity, lives at the very heart of our jealousies, our greed, our prejudice, and our arguments with life I usually don t bother writing reviews for books I can t finish And usually I give the book a fair chance say, at least 100 pages before giving up Some books I even read all the way to the end before wishing I could just get my time back.In this case, I read an interview with the author in O Magazine, and the interview was so interesting that I immediately requested this book from the library Well, once the book arrived, I quickly discovered that I had trouble following even the introdu I usually don t bother writing reviews for books I can t finish And usually I give the book a fair chance say, at least 100 pages before giving up Some books I even read all the way to the end before wishing I could just get my time back.In this case, I read an interview with the author in O Magazine, and the interview was so interesting that I immediately requested this book from the library Well, once the book arrived, I quickly discovered that I had trouble following even the introduction, and I thought maybe I was just distracted So I flipped to the center and chose a random chapternope, still not really getting into this Okay, let s try this in order and begin with Chapter 1 I GIVE UP.You know what s wrong with this book It is disorganized I can t follow the author s thoughts and logic And worst of all, whoever designed this book was totally carried away by his her power and went completely crazy with the font formatting Seriously, I can t even look at this book without wincing bold text, italic text, large text, large text with huge spaces in between the letters, medium sized text Read the interview in O Magazine Don t read this book Your eyes will thank you Researcher and thought leader Dr Bren Brown offers a powerful new vision that encourages us to dare greatly to embrace vulnerability and imperfection, to live wholeheartedly, and to courageously engage in our lives It is not the critic who counts not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood who strives valiantly who at best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly Theodore RooseveltEvery day we experience the uncertainty, risks, and emotional exposure that define what it means to be vulnerable, or to dare greatly Whether the arena is a new relationship, an important meeting, our creative process, or a difficult family conversation, we must find the courage to walk into vulnerability and engage with our whole heartsIn Daring Greatly, Dr Brown challenges everything we think we know about vulnerability Based on twelve years of research, she argues that vulnerability is not weakness, but rather our clearest path to courage, engagement, and meaningful connection The book that Dr Brown s many fans have been waiting for, Daring Greatly will spark a new spirit of truth and trust in our organizations, families, schools, and communities I really, really, really wanted to like this book It came so highly recommended, and it started off so well The first chapter was spectacular I found myself nodding along to just about everything feeling vulnerable, a culture of scarcity, the new economy, etc This book was speaking to me My fears, my anxieties, my worries And I hoped Brown would be the person to help guide me through it all.But no.The book promptly went downhill and fast Instead of direction and guidance, we get narrati I really, really, really wanted to like this book It came so highly recommended, and it started off so well The first chapter was spectacular I found myself nodding along to just about everything feeling vulnerable, a culture of scarcity, the new economy, etc This book was speaking to me My fears, my anxieties, my worries And I hoped Brown would be the person to help guide me through it all.But no.The book promptly went downhill and fast Instead of direction and guidance, we get narrative upon narrative, mindless platitudes, and silly case studies it s not Brown s fault, but the inclusion of Lululemon as a model of great corporate culture is rather hilarious these days.Brown mentions nothing about the cultural structures at play that make being vulnerable virtually impossible and leaves so many questions unanswered Why do the underlying issues exist How do we address the cultural issues surrounding doubt, especially in terms of parenthood How can we change the cultural narrative How do we opt out of the rat race and still function How do we convince ourselves that we are, in fact, loveable, and therefore able to be vulnerable Overall, a very unsatisfying book but one that had such promise that wasn t helped by an audiobook narrator who perhaps was too successful at being vulnerable She sounds incredibly insecure, not confident, and definitely not like someone who is daring greatly So many of the sentences could have beenpowerful if they were spoken with determination and without annoying upspeak Do you want to change the world Do you want to havepowerful interpersonal relationships Do you want to explore into your own soul to make sense of your life Do you want to live whole hearted Do you want to rid yourself from shame Do you want to understand men and women better Do you want to give your heart a hug I thought I would do something different this time and give you a list of questions for this book review This book is so jam packed with the hard stuff that I don t even want to Do you want to change the world Do you want to havepowerful interpersonal relationships Do you want to explore into your own soul to make sense of your life Do you want to live whole hearted Do you want to rid yourself from shame Do you want to understand men and women better Do you want to give your heart a hug I thought I would do something different this time and give you a list of questions for this book review This book is so jam packed with the hard stuff that I don t even want to dare pretend that I get it all I will be reading it repeatedly until I have absorbed and memorized every nugget of wisdom I wish every other person on the planet would do the same It would seriously bring world peace and most certainly would give everyone inner peace I m not kidding, It s that powerful.I was proud to be a part of this book campaign I was thrilled I mean I jumped up and down when I got the e mail confirmation and cooked a fancy dinner for my family when it arrived in the mail I have been pouring over its pages and sharing parts with my hubby every chance I get I have compromised my facebook relationships with the overabundance of quotes from this book I just can t stop It s too totally amazing not to share YOU HAVE TO READ THIS BOOK If you don t want to buy your own copy, borrow mine I can t share it though for at least another month until I have it memorized.I had a powerful experience at work last night, using the principles learned in this book I was substitute teaching a class at the therapeutic boarding school where I work I gave the kids a reward for every half an hour of hard work We listened to a song of their choice with my approval One boy chose a powerfully emotional song about a girl who wanted to be with her dying boyfriend forever I loved it Another boy in the class didn t He started to shame the song choice kid I stopped him and talked with the whole class about shaming and talked with them about giving people space to be who they are, even if they are wrong or different I then turned to the shamer, and told him how much I loved him and admired him and that I would hope other people would give him space to love what he loved He got teary eyed He turned to the other kid and said, Dude, I am so sorry, I don t like that song, but it s cool if you do World peace, people World peace.A huge thanks to marriage counselor friend John Morgan who turned me on to Brene Brown just months ago He shared with me her talks from Ted I was hooked Brene is a researcher and has a PHD and LMSW Her life s work is shame and vulnerability Here are her videos Watch them both Come back if you have to They will make you understand why you need to read this book Even if you aren t into that psychological mumbo jumbo, you need to be Daring Greatly was not what I expected it to be instead it gave me a very different outlook to vulnerability and a new understanding of what it means to engage with our vulnerability, understand how shame and shaming others affects us, how to combat shame, and being vulnerable for the sake of making real connections with people Not only has it helped me understand my vulnerability but understand other people s vulnerability and understand scarcity and how wholeheartedness can affect us I highl Daring Greatly was not what I expected it to be instead it gave me a very different outlook to vulnerability and a new understanding of what it means to engage with our vulnerability, understand how shame and shaming others affects us, how to combat shame, and being vulnerable for the sake of making real connections with people Not only has it helped me understand my vulnerability but understand other people s vulnerability and understand scarcity and how wholeheartedness can affect us I highly recommend Daring Greatly to truly understand what vulnerability really is and understand the opportunities being vulnerable can create for us I don t think the whole premise is very mature.All the narcissism and vulnerability talk and social media talk Are their no other problems with people Other than what they waste their time on FB, whether they are narcissists catch all and other what not Some points are really good Q For the first time in history, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention CDC has announced that automobile accidents are now the second leading cause of accidental death in the United States The leadin I don t think the whole premise is very mature.All the narcissism and vulnerability talk and social media talk Are their no other problems with people Other than what they waste their time on FB, whether they are narcissists catch all and other what not Some points are really good Q For the first time in history, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention CDC has announced that automobile accidents are now the second leading cause of accidental death in the United States The leading cause Drug overdoses In fact,people die from prescription drug overdoses than from heroin, cocaine, and methamphetamine drug use combined Evenalarming is the estimate that less than 5 percent of those who died from prescription drug overdoses obtained their drugs from the folks we normally think of as street corner drug dealers The dealers today arelikely to be parents, relatives, friends, and physicians Clearly there s a problem c Q Group A I make a pot of coffee after I tuck in my kids so I can take care of all the e mails between ten P.M and midnight If there are too many, I wake up at four A.M and start over again I don t like getting to work with any unanswered e mail in my in box I m exhausted, but they re answered Group B I ve simply stopped sending unnecessary e mails and asked my friends and colleagues to do the same I ve also started setting the expectation that it might take me a few days to respond If it s important, call me Don t text or e mail Call Better yet, stop by my office Group A I use red lights, grocery lines, and elevator rides to stay on top of my calls I even sleep with my phone in case someone calls or I remember something in the middle of the night One time I called my assistant at four A.M because I remembered that we needed to add something to a motion that we were preparing I was surprised that she answered, but then she reminded me that I had told her to keep her phone on her nightstand I ll rest and let off steam when we re done Work hard Play hard That s my motto And it doesn t take much to play hard when you haven t slept in a while Group B My boss, my friends, and my family know that I don t take calls before nine A.M or after nine P.M If the phone rings after or before those times, it s either a wrong number or an emergency a real emergency, not a work issue Q Yes, I know vulnerability I know it well It s an exquisite emotion c Q Like many of the folks drawn to social work, I liked the idea of fixing people and systems c Q I had realized that social work wasn t about fixing It was and is all about contextualizing and leaning in Social work is all about leaning into the discomfort of ambiguity and uncertainty, andholding open an empathic space so people can find their own way In a word messy.As I struggled to figure out how I could ever make a career in social work actually work, I was riveted by a statement from one of my research professors If you can t measure it, it doesn t exist He explained that unlike our other classes in the program, research was all about prediction andcontrol I was smitten You mean that rather than leaning and holding, I could spend my career predicting and controlling I had found my calling c Seems like the guy just chose his profession unwisely Q 1 Cultivating Authenticity Letting Go of What People Think2 Cultivating Self Compassion Letting Go of Perfectionism3 Cultivating a Resilient Spirit Letting Go of Numbing and Powerlessness4 Cultivating Gratitude and Joy Letting Go of Scarcity and Fear of the Dark5 Cultivating Intuition and Trusting Faith Letting Go of the Need for Certainty6 Cultivating Creativity Letting Go of Comparison7 Cultivating Play and Rest Letting Go of Exhaustion as a Status Symbol and Productivity as SelfWorth8 Cultivating Calm and Stillness Letting Go of Anxiety as a Lifestyle9 Cultivating Meaningful Work Letting Go of Self Doubt and Supposed To 10 Cultivating Laughter, Song, and Dance Letting Go of Being Cool and Always in Control As I analyzed the data, I realized that I was about two for ten in my own life when in comes toWholehearted living That was personally devastating This happened a few weeks before my fortyfirst birthday and sparked my midlife unraveling As it turns out, getting an intellectual handle on these issues isn t the same as living and loving with your whole heart No shit, Sherlock I picked up Daring Greatly after watching Brene Brown s amazing TED Talk on the power of vulnerability I find it fascinating that someone can conduct research centered on human topics such as shame, vulnerability, connection, and happiness When I first entered college I possessed the notion that research was something done with test tubes and beakers in the back of a laboratory, but Brown s work shows that in depth research can apply to anyone, inside or outside of academia.The quality of Brow I picked up Daring Greatly after watching Brene Brown s amazing TED Talk on the power of vulnerability I find it fascinating that someone can conduct research centered on human topics such as shame, vulnerability, connection, and happiness When I first entered college I possessed the notion that research was something done with test tubes and beakers in the back of a laboratory, but Brown s work shows that in depth research can apply to anyone, inside or outside of academia.The quality of Brown s insights in Daring Greatly deserves praise She could have fallen back on trite tips that all self help books preach Instead, she examines vulnerability, shame, and wholeheartedness with a fine lens, using intriguing analogies and everyday anecdotes to illustrate her points She discusses how men and women experience shame differently, how people who change their behaviors handle anxiety better than those who just cope with it, and how shame itself leads to distractions such as sex, alcohol, and addictions to Smartphones.Brown incorporates practical applications of her research, ranging from how to help veterans form connections with others in the community to how modeling shame based behaviors can result in negative parenting She even includes scenarios such as when to disclose personal information in order to form connections as opposed to when it s better to keep your life private Daring Greatly looks at patterns in human behavior that some people might overlook, and it provides ideas on how to change.I would have appreciated a bitof the how in regard to daring greatly Brown drives home the point that we should all strive to dare greatly, and she reveals a myriad of obstacles that obstruct us from doing so, but I wanted a fewconcrete suggestions to guide us to success It also would have been nice if Brown includedinformation about how she conducted her research throughout the book even though she discusses methodology in the research appendix, knowing how she came to her conclusions when they re initially presented might aid in comprehension.Overall, a great read, and highly recommended to those who enjoyed her TED Talk and desire to gain eveninsight into the concepts of vulnerability and shame Brown has an extensive track record through her research, her books, and her presentations, so I will be sure to check outof her work